[Bug] HashProbe costs too much memory and causing OOM

[fzhedu]

Component Selection

• Core Engine (Expression eval, Memory, Vector)
• Connectors / File Formats (Hive, Parquet, etc.)
• API / Bindings (Python, etc.)
• Build
• Other

Describe the Bug

oom by hash probe

Reproduction Steps

the join payload of building side has too many variable types of long string or may/array/struct.

Bolt Version / Commit ID

main

System Configuration

- **OS**: (e.g. Ubuntu 22.04, CentOS 7)
- **Compiler**: (e.g. GCC 11, Clang 14)
- **Build Type**: (Debug / Release / RelWithDebInfo)
- **CPU Arch**: (e.g. x86_64 AVX2, ARM64)
- **Framework**: (e.g. Spark 3.3, PrestoDB)

Logs / Stack Trace

Expected Behavior

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Additional context

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